Dating a professional collegue
The Chat-up: Fancying someone you work with is not a criminal offence and neither is asking them out. Are you in any danger of being accused of favouritism if you start to see each other outside work? When someone operates in this manner, it is difficult to know when to say "no, thank you".It's always wise to keep in mind, though, that in the workplace you should think and plan before you act. What are your positions in the company pecking order? If you do tell this colleague you're not interested in them as a partner they may claim - unfairly - that that was never their intention in the first place, craftily extricating themselves from the area of conflict, leaving a sour taste all round.You know you will have at least one thing in common, as well as an informed ear to bounce all your troubles off when you get home in the evening; 2.You will probably have had the opportunity to study this person quite closely before starting to date them. What do you expect the company will think about a romance between you?I enjoy working with you, so why complicate things? On paper they read a bit like Noel Coward out-takes).And at all costs avoid the following: "That's okay, no hard feelings - as I hope you won't have when I tell you your pay rise has just been cancelled." Or: "So Quentin in accounts was right after all, you aren't lesbian/gay".Be light in tone but clear about your intentions (not all of them, of course).
Working in the same office and having the same profession as your soul mate means that you and them have a lot in common.
Work is a way of test-driving a potential partner (ie getting to know them) before taking the plunge and asking them out. Etiquette: Dating a work colleague requires a good amount of old-fashioned social etiquette, not because it will make you any more attractive but because it will make the whole process a lot more comfortable and a lot less difficult, if and when the whole thing ends. Working with someone means forging an effective relationship.
Better still, you'll be seeing them during the day, rather than just propping up a bar with them in the evening. Work together during the day, pop out for a quick drink after work, Bob's your uncle. Everything is in order, from stress-busting massage at the desk to on-site counselling, so why not pick a mate there too? Hinting that you would like to take things further but never being specific can make the whole relationship uncomfortable, especially if it's a boss/employee situation.
IT HAS been estimated that up to half of us meet our future partners through or at work, which makes it a significant venue for budding romance.
There are obvious plus points to meeting your partner at work: 1.
This system obviously has advantages over night-time pick-ups in darkened clubs, holiday romances, (notoriously short-lived), or blind dates arranged by friends. High-powered City workers of the Nineties are accustomed to using the office as a complete life- support system. Making a pass is a dangerous manoeuvre in the workplace. Trying to blur the lines between business and pleasure will appear sleazy.