Dating someone w herpes
I took immune-boosting supplements (even though research on supplements to prevent herpes is inconclusive) and made sure he was taking his herpes medication, which decreases chances of transmission as well as his frequency of outbreaks — and then we just kind of went about our sex lives without fretting too much. We decided to be mostly monogamous, agreeing that when we were in the same city, we would only see each other. Should I then disclose to my new partners that I have genital herpes?After the relationship ended (for non-STI reasons), I wanted to get tested for HSV II, but my doctor said that because it takes so long to build up antibodies, results would be inconclusive. After a long discussion over the ethics of herpes, my doctor and I decided that it was unnecessary to tell future partners that I’d come into contact with it — because, after all, most sexual adults likely have, too.Most people find that their partners are both supportive and understanding.It is a common assumption to initially think that a person may base their judgement of you on the fact you have genital herpes. People fear the possibility of rejection but the reality of this is that it rarely happens.
In fact, the majority of Americans have at least one form of the herpes virus, and you can get it from kissing, fucking, sharing a drink, or basically any form of close contact with a mucous membrane.
Because fear of rejection is a concern, it leads some to question why they should risk talking about herpes. Instead they abstain during herpes outbreaks, practice safe sex at other times, and hope for the best.
This strategy may have more disadvantages than advantages.
For most people, the anxiety over not telling your partner you have herpes is worse than the telling itself.
On the other hand, by telling your partner you have herpes and allowing them to enter into the relationship with full knowledge of your infection, you reduce the likelihood of them becoming infected with herpes.
It would be like telling everyone that I have the flu, but hadn’t shown any symptoms, so it was only a possibility.